Smart Spanking

In these times couples try to seek out new and exciting ways to express their love and add some spice to the bedroom. One of these ways that is becoming more popular over the past years is erotic spanking. This allows for many benefits to a couples relationship, in this article I will look at a couple of these.

First spanking builds trust in a relationship. You have to be able to trust your partner with spanking you and not leaving you looking like Zorro was there. After all you are probably bound by your arms by some means, so use of you hands to protect you are pretty much out of the question. If you have been married or are currently married you know the importance of having complete and total trust in your partner.

Second Spanking builds communication between you and your partner. During the spanking you will need to be able to communicate clearly to your partner and they will need to be able to listen and follow your instructions. So if you and your special someone have problems communicating you may want to start out with the spanking being unrestrained.

The last benefit is that it brings a sense of adventure to the bedroom,throw in a blindfold and things really get interesting. The blindfold will leave your partner on edge as they will not know when you are going to spank them or not. I will say this if you are the one doing the spanking do not put the blindfold on it adds nothing to the surprise except when you spank your cat instead of your husband.

so as you can see there are many benefits to spanking when it comes to the bedroom, after all who does not want to play the naughty school girl. Just remember these two basic rules communicate and listen to each other.

Many people wonder what is it that makes us so interested in the erotic act of spanking. Now I am not going to sit here and give a thesis on how it deals with a repressed feeling that we experienced as a child. Instead I will give my two cent observations and explain in simple terms why we are so fascinated with this.

As we all probably were growing up I was spanked as a child, my dad ruled our house with an iron fist and a leather belt. This was probably the case in almost every home during the time when parents could still discipline their kids. So maybe the fascination with spanking is that we as adults now get to feel the power that our parents felt. Only this time we act out this show of power with other adults such as our husband or wife.

Regardless of the reasons why the niche of erotic spanking has grown in popularity. Google the term erotic spanking and see how many results turn up…… go ahead I will wait. Maybe the reason for the popularity is that we love to watch other people go through what we did as kids.

There has been a sizable increase in the number of sites devoted to this fetish. In addition there has also been an increase in the amount of toys that are now available for use during spanking. So the next time you are in the middle of being spanked by your wife or husband just think about the reason that this turns you on so and ask yourself are you the one that is normal. Maybe the rest of the people who shun this form of eroticism are the ones that are abnormal.

So imagine you are sitting on the bus and you overhear a conversation between two people talking about erotic spanking. You think to yourself “this could be fun” before you go home and start tearing into your wife like a bad school girl, here are some tips to help you get the most out of this.

First make sure to set the mood, don’t just come home and start using a whip like Indiana Jones. Have you and your wife sit down and watch a video together to help get you both into the mood. Try to rent one that has spanking in it to help further that desire.

Next communication is the key, in this situation you may be the one with the belt or paddle but the person being spanked is in control. It is important to make sure you keep an open line of communication between you and the other person. Don’t be afraid to ask questions like “does that feel good.”

Spank safely is an important rule to remember. There are parts of our body that were built for spanking such as the rear, thighs and legs. Never spank around the back or kidneys, nothing will ruin the mood like a trip to the emergency room. So before you spank in an area ask yourself “would I want to be hit there” if the answer is no then don’t do it.

Use dirty talk Tell your partner how you are turned on by the redness of their butt as you spank them, this will increase your and their pleasure by a whole lot.

And finally seal the deal Tell your partner to count backwards from lets say fifty, with each number give them a lick with the paddle. If they miss a number then make them start over. In closing remember this if you are going to venture into the world of spanking do so with caution and keep your mind open and listen to what your partner is telling you.

Many people hear the words spanking and automatically think of a belt. In actually there are many types of articles that can be used as spanking instruments. One of these said articles i the paddle.

We all remember the paddle, back when we were mere kids in school and would get in trouble. A trip to the principals office usually meant a spanking with a paddle. Now that we are all grown up many of us hope to be spanked with a paddle, since it is the number one device used when spanking someone.

Now that you have decided what you are going to use to dole out your spanking, you may want to consider a spanking bench. You heard correctly a spanking bench, this is a bench special designed for use in spanking. the person being spanked or as they are referred to as sometimes the spankee may or may not be restrained.

With all of that being decided you may want to consider your partner wear a spank skirt. This is a skirt that is designed to be worn while the person is being spanked. The spank skirt may also be worn for another purpose and that is for the purpose of exposure.

You don’t need to go out and spend a lot of money on a piece of equipment for your spanking playtime, most of your furniture in your home can be used during spanking. One example of this is your bed or the arm of a couch. You may also want to experiment with various items in your home to use for the actual spanking.

If all else fails you can always go back to the tried and true of using a belt. it was good enough for us to be spanked with as a child and unlike other sex toys it will never go out of style.

Growing up we all hated being spanked, we would get into trouble at school and dreaded to hear those famous words “just wait till your father gets home.” Today many people are actually turned on by the thought of being spanked. To the point that there are actually places where people go just for this very reason.

If you are a fan of the show Family Guy then you have seen the episode where the baby is actually turned on by being spanked. But before you go and think that the world of spanking is just a bunch of people running around whipping people with belts here are some facts about the scene.

First there are safe words that are used, these are words that once said bring a complete stop to all activity. the next thing is that there are roles, one person is the dominant and one person is the submissive. in some cases these roles may switch during the role playing with both parties experiencing the feeling of being spanked.

Spanking is often considered to be part of the BDSM culture and often times considered a taboo subject in the U.S. Even though this is considered taboo you can still find a bounty of publications dedicated to this subject.

The subject of spanking is even covered in the Kama Sutra, where it shows you in great detail how to strike your partner the proper and safe way, after all the name of the game is to have fun and to be safe.
So the next time that you and your partner are looking to spice up your sex life consider trying spanking, there are a limitless number of roles that you can use to help further the experience. Who knows you might discover something about yourself that you never knew like you really couldn’t wait for your father to get home.